Maut... zindagi ke liye zaroori hai yeh..

D E A T H.

Bad word, hai na ? Ma says its a bad word. Papa says don’t say it. Nidhi stops talking to me if I utter it. Its a bad word. Death. Even in the movies, the heroine places her finger on the hero's lips before he can complete the sentence and whispers "Kabhi marne kee baat matt karna. Aisa nahee kehte".

But, its coming yaar. Death. It will happen. To me. To you.

Acchha yaar , now stop yelling "manhoos", bear me out. What if I were to die after half an hour. I shall never be able to feel ma's palm on my forehead again. I shall never hear Nidhi’s voice again, nor hear all my friends saying “kitna mota ho gaya hai tu. Kuch kar”. I shall never be able to tell dad that even though I always try to act smart, he is the greatest guy I have ever known. I shall never be able to tell the departmental store guy that I stole 3 eggs from his shop yesterday. Ok, dont dial 100 , the eggs wala part is not true. How could you imagine that, me and stealing eggs ? I am a Jain. I steal tindli and dhania.

But seriously, death scares me. It scares me to be away from my loved ones. It scares me to die without doing all the things I want to do. It scares me that I may die. But death is real. And I may die after a year. I may die tomorrow after office, if I do end up leaving office. I may die before I complete this post.( But now that I have published it , I did not die before completing it,right ? Think about it ! ).

Now you may smirk and say "arre yaar , aise thode hee koee mar jaata hai". But I have seen lives shattering in the blink of an eye. A second's delay in hitting the brakes , a leaking gas cylinder , a cycle containing a bomb parked next to you, a desperate and armed domestic help . . . is enough to change your life in a radical way , before you can say "maar daala". And not like Madhuri said it in Devdas.

But the point is not to be scared of dying. The point is to be scared of dying without really living.

I see around me. I see people I care for. I see myself. Sometimes I see us all sad .I see us clinging to bad memories, things which we cannot change, things which still hurt us, things which make tears flow down their cheeks. I know we are hurt and not stupid and have reasons to feel sad. But life is not forever. Life is nothing but a limited number of moments gifted to us by god. And each moment is slipping by. Right now , a moment just passed by me , and took me closer to death , leaving me with lesser time to smile ,to crack some poor joke, to see my ma laugh, to see my dad proud, to see Nidhi find the happiness she deserves, to be a good person, to make someone smile, to live. And the very thought of letting such a precious moment drown in a tear leaves me restless. Why do we people hurt each other, when this life may not be long enough to love each other ?

Maybe you need to know that you may never get a chance to be the good man you could have been. Maybe you need to know that the moment you have been waiting for may never arrive. Maybe you need to know that you may never have the time to wipe off the tears you are causing today. Maybe you need to know that death is a surprisingly unexpected reality. Maybe you need to start living the life you should.

I know I know, I am saying nothing new. But life and the things it does to people and the things people do to it continue to amuse me. In short, ek baat bolta hun, all of us should respect and enjoy the ride, because hamari life kee taxi mein petrol kabhi bhi khatm ho sakta hain. And marne ke baad, you cant even fight with the cab driver. So smile, khush raho, muskurao, jeeyo, and make people smile , kyunki ..kal ho na ho. Wait a minute ..kal ho na ho..yaar ye phrase kuch suna hua nahee lagta ?

...Life ain't fair...

How many times have you found yourselves talking to a friend / colleague complaining & cribbing about life in general and mumbling the oft repeated line, “Life’s so NOT fair to me yaar ! !”.

Well, “Who said life was fair, or that it was ever meant to be fair?”

Think about it. This question is a good one. A very good one.

One of the mistakes many of us make is to feel sorry for ourselves, or for others, thinking that life should be fair, or that someday it will be.

It’s not & it won’t.

When we make this mistake, we spend a lot of time wallowing about what’s wrong with life. We talk to others, discussing injustices of life. “It’s not fair”, we always complain, never realizing that, perhaps, it was never intended to be.

One of the nice things about surrendering to the fact that life’s not fair is that it keeps us from feeling sorry for ourselves by encouraging us to do the very best we can with what we have. It’s not life’s job to make everything perfect, it’s our own personal challenge.

Everyone is dealt with a different hand. You have to play with the cards you’ve been dealt.

The fact that life isn’t fair does not mean we shouldn’t do everything in our power to improve our own lives. Au contraire, it suggests that we SHOULD. When we don’t recognize or admit that life isn’t fair, we tend to feel pity for ourselves or others.

And pity is definitely a self defeating, useless emotion that does nothing for anyone, except to make them feel worse than they already do.

Recognise that life’s not fair, and turn your self-pity into some helpful action.